Neighbors

It's inevitable when you live in an apartment that some things are going to happen. People are going to make too much noise, someone is going to have a party, there are going to be shouting matches from other apartments and someone is going to be found dead, either from natural causes or from other....

Well that last one happened at my apartment complex today. He was my neighbor and lived just 2 doors away from me. His name was Ron and he was in his early 50's. He'd only been living here for about a year but he was a nice guy.

The manager placed a 30 day notice on his apartment door on the 3rd of this month because he hadn't come in to pay the rent. Then today my hubby, Ken went to his door and knocked on it because we hadn't seen him in a few days and the 30 days notice was still on his door. Today being the 12th, it was a little strange for him not to have taken it down by now.

When there was no answer to the door, Ken got a bad feeling and sniffed the door....sure enough there was a really bad,,, really bad odor coming from the apartment. This isn't the first time Ken has found a dead person in their apartment here, since he is the maintenance man here he has alot to do with the residents and routinely talks with many of them and when he doesn't see them he gets worried.

He went to get the manager and they unlocked th edoor, sure enough Ron was dead in his living room. The police and then the coroner came out and said it looks like he probably had a heart attack and he's been there for 7-10 days. very sad.

This is the 4th person Ken has found deceased in their apartment. It's stands to reason it's going to happen since we are all going to die at some time or another.

Drugs and Alcohol

Ever since hearing about Corey Haim's death, I've been seeing how people feel about drug addicts, drunks, ect...It truly pisses me off when an addict will get a free pass because someone thinks they have a disease, they can't help the way they act. They deserved better than what they got, or the real problem is they had an awful childhood and drugs were a way of dealing with their awful childhood or life.

Bullshit! Double bullshit!

They choose to pick up the pipe, the cocaine, the bottle of booze or whatever pill they are high on. They choose to keep doing it, they choose to lose control and they choose to do all the things that they did to keep getting the drugs in the first place.

It irritates me to no end when I hear people say, Oh he's drunk, he doesn't know what he's doing. Or He deserves a better life than the one he has now because of the drugs. Bullshit. They choose to do the drugs and I won't feel sorry for them. They choose to steal, rob people, sell their bodies, sell drugs and whatever else they are doing in order to support their habit.

I had a bad childhood, really bad. But I didn't turn to drugs or booze or blame my childhood on every bad decision I've made since becoming an adult. You're an adult now, act like one and stop sniveling over what has happened to you. What are you going to do with the rest of your life?

Only you can make it better and only you can make the decision to do the wrong thing by using drugs or alcohol. It's not like someone who gets a brain tumor and starts making bad decisions. They can't help having a brain tumor, but people can stop drinking or doing drugs.

After more than 40 years of heavy drinking my dad one day decided to stop...and that was it for him. He stopped.

My mom did the same thing a few years ago, although I think she drinks a beer now and then but I don't have to be around it, so I can't say much to her. It's her life.

I refuse to be around someone who drinks so much they can't control themselves. I'd leave a family member if they ever got that way and not be around them at all until they got their shit together. if they never did then that's their problem and I wouldn't have it around me or in my life.

There's only so much you can do for a family member who won't stop the drugs, alcohol, pills. If they want to ruin their own lives and they will, have no doubt they will. You have to let them and not help them at all. Don't be an enabler, don't help them until they stop the drugs, alcohol, pills. If that meant never tlaking to one of my family members again...I'm ready to do that. That's how strongly against it I am.

No kid deserves to be put through having to live with alcoholic parents. I don't think parents who drink on a regular basis should ever get their kids back. If you want to screw up your own life, go ahead and do it, but don't screw up your kids life in the process.

Yeah, it's a touchy subject for me....very touchy. And it pisses me off to no end.

MySpace sucks

I just tried to post a link to this blog from my blog on MySpace and the link keeps getting blocked because they said this site is full of adware...is a phishing site or has been reported for spam. Then at the bottom is says oh but there might not be anything wrong with the site, if you are trying to reach a blog they domain may not be working with MySpace to combat security problems so Myspace has decided to block the entire domain.

That means anyone posting a link to Blogger...from MySpace will have their link blocked. How stupid is that?

The airlines and why they need to be boycotted

I was looking at some articles and found this one about how this large passenger got thrown off a southwest airline by the pilot because the pilot thought he was so big he would be a safety risk.




http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2701617/director_kevin_smith_tossed_from_southwest.html?cat=9

Frankly, I think that kind of nonsense is insulting, degrading and legally wrong. If they want to start doing idiotic stuff like this they need to have it in writing beforehand. If on the website or in writing somewhere it said that passengers weighing more than xxx amount could not fly, then I wouldn't have as much of a problem as I do right now. But they don't have that in writing.

What they have in writing is that if a passenger is too big and cannot fit in a seat and buckle a seatbelt even with an extender, they may have to buy an extra seat.

Boycott the airlines. I've been saying it for years. Stop letting them get away with the foolishness that they get away with everyday. stop letting them keep passengers on the tarmac for 12 and more hours. Yes, there's a new law going in effect that says the airlines have to let passnegers off the airlines if the plane is going to be on the tarmac for I think it was 5 hours, but I read today in Yahoo news that 2 airlines are allready trying to ask for more time than that ebcause the busy times for airlines are coming up and they say there are going to be delays and if they ahve to let everyone off after a certain amount of time the flights will et even more backed up.

Well maybe they have a scheduling problem and need to fix it.
Boycott the airlines.
I'll keep saying it until people start realizing that, that's what it's going to take before they will stop treating passengers like baggage.

Been a great week

I know it's only monday (looking at clock) ok, so it's now tuesday and I've won a book by Jasmine Haynes called The fortune hunter, I won a $25.00 gift card to Borders and I got picked to host a Kraft House party and they are sending me a free Velveeta cheese and maxwell house coffee to serve to my guests.

I also got a bunch of free samples the past few days:
Free sample of Biofreeze
Free sample of John Freida Shampoo and conditioner
Free sample of dried plums
Free sample of Kashi cereal
Free coupon for Halo spots stew dog food (I'm giving it to my mom for her new dog)
Free coupon for a free sample of Next to Nature
and a free sample of hand sanitizer

I love finding the free sample sites and ordering the ones I can use or the ones I can give to my family. The dog food used to come in handy when I had rats, they would eat that stuff up. I even got a free sample (a whole can) of cat food and my daughter opened it up and left it in the courtyard for the cats that are always around here. The next day it was gone, so some lucky cat got it.

Awful times? Pessimistic days?

I've been told that I'm pessimistic, negative, see the bad in everything. Yeah, well that may be true to some extent. But different people see things differently. That's just how things work out.

To some people getting a flat tire would be awful, to others it would be a minor inconvenience and to others they would just shrug their shoulds and go about getting a new one without ever thinking about it.

I think it has alot to do with how people think about different situations that come up and how they handle it when their days don't go the way they plan. it also has alot to do with finances. Let's face it, if I had the money to get a tire fixed everytime one went flat, I probably wouldn't let it bother me all that much either. But when you live from paycheck to paycheck and have to wait until you get another paycheck in order to get a new tire or even a used tire, you are going to be stressed out about it.

Yeah, I might see the bad in mos tthings and I might look for the negative in most days but I've come to the realization that bad things are going to happen and it's how we handle these situations that are going to make how we feel about them when they happen.

I like to plan ahead for disasters and when I say disasters I mean all the little annoying things that can happen in our everyday lives, like flat tired, electricity going out, a 12 lb hail stone falling through my roof, a fire happening in my car or home. Yeah, most of these things aren't going to happen but it;s ncie to have a plan for them just in case they do, right?

WHY ARE YOU SHOUTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyone who has been on the internet, in chat rooms, on MySpace, Facebook or written an email knows better than to type in all caps and use a disasterous amount of exclamation points.

Yes, if you use all caps we consider it shouting and can tell you are unhappy, really mean what you are saying or are just a dumbass and don't know any better.

Allow me to introduce you to the Caps Lock Key. It can be used to make all the letters big and you can actually press it again to type the right way. Use it! You see there, that was an appropriate use of an exclamation point.

Someone that constantly writes like this: I REALLY HATE IT WHEN SHE DOES THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OR
HAHAHAHAHAHA OMG THAT'S FUNNNYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, you people that do this need to stop. Right now. Do not keep doing it because it's pissing people off and they might just stop talking to you because you are aggravating the hell out of them.

Don't say I didn't warn you.

The Diet Craze

I don't know one women that sometime in her life, wasn't trying to lose weight. Even if it was ajust a little bit, she was dieting. I did it and then after years of being sick and tired of dieting I finally stopped.

There are all sorts of weight loss things out there right now.
Lapband- surgery where a band is put around the top portion of your stomache so you feel full sooner. But the down side is the hole to get the food through is tiny and so anything you eat needs to be tiny or in tiny pieces or it can get stuck.

Alli- weight loss pills. We've all seen them being sold oover the counter. They are said that they will help you in that for every 2 lbs you lose on your own the pills will help you lose another 1 lb. Just by taking a pill. Wow, that's amazing. What they don't tell you is that there are extreme consequences for not sticking to their low low fat diet.

If you eat a meal with too much fat in it while on Alli, you will Shite your pants. Blow brown gass bubbles all down your legs, leaving a brown, greasy, stinky, sludgy trail behind you as you walk to the ladies room to change into the extra pair of clothing you brought to work, because you know this might happen.

I heard it explained that after eating a high fat content meal the diarrhea will be so bad that it just leaks right out and there's nothing you can do to stop it because it's so full of the grease and fat you were not suppossed to be eating while on Alli.

HCG diet....I'm still trying to figure out what this one is about. They tell you to gorge yourself the first few days after getting a B12 shot so that when you start injecting yourself with the HCG it recognizes the fat in your body and starts to burn it. The only thing is after the first few days of gorging yourself you have to stay on a very strict 500 calorie a day diet.

500 calories a day is not a healthy diet. I've been to enough dieticians, doctors, health professionals to know that only getting 500 calories a day can back fire and right badly. With this diet you are essentially starving your body into losing weight and that can come back to bite you. Starvation reacts with the body in a bad way...your internal organs start losing fat and protein and they are being hurt by this. Hair will start falling out, your complexion may get worst and your hormones may become low or high which can make health problems worst.

In my opinion using pills, surgery, is the easy,lazy way out. And yes, I am a large woman and I know how I got this way. It didn't take one day to get this large and it wouldn't take one night to fix it, if I wanted to. I am fine with the way i look but for those of you who are not...the only diet that really works is diet and exercise.

A real diet would be to cut you calories down to 1000 a day and do some sort of exercise for one hour a day. be it walking, biking, stepping, hiking, lifting weights...whatever.
With that you should lose 1-2 lbs per week.
Yeah, it's not as fast as getting lap band, but you also won't have a surgical scar and you'll be able to eat more than one bite at a time for the rest of your life.

Tomatoes and Gift Cards

I've been sick with the flu since the 23rd, so I've been feeling pretty bad for the past week. But I felt a little better the other day when I got a phone call from the local radio station telling me that I had won one of the $10.00 Wendy's Gift cards that I had signed up for on their contest page.

I went down to the radio station and got the card, but it took a few days before I was feeling well enough to eat Wendy's. So yesterday when we went to Wendy's to spend my gift card, the total came to $18.97. I gave the guy my card and when he handed it back to me I saw on the register side that was facing me it said, amount due 8.97. So I pulled out my ATM card and started to hand it to him, but he pushed a button on the register and told me that my gift card had covered the whole thing.

I told him that I only had $10.00 on that card and the amount due in cash had said 8.97. But he assured me that the gift card had covered the whole things and when the register came out he even went to point out that I had $10.00 left on my card...according to the way he was reading the receipt.

Again I tried to point out that he was reading it wrong and that it was telling him I only had $10.00 on the card to begin with and that on the bottom where it said total, it said gift card total and then below that it said cash 8.97.

He just shook his head and said the receipt wouldn't have come out if the gift card hadn't covered the whle thing. I just shook my head and took our food and left. My hubby was shaking his head as well. He knew what had happened too....I didn't want this teenage boy to be shortchanged on his register but he was too stupid to realize what had happened and that I was trying to help him. Oh well...

Now on to the tomato part of my story.
While at Wendy's, I read a sign on the register that read something like...
There has been a great shortage of tomatoes and until this tomato shortage is rectified, no tomatoes will be added to any foods at Wendy's unless you specifically ask for them. There will also be a .50 extra charge for any tomatoes added to food until futher notice.

So if I had wanted a slice of tomato on my chicken club... it would ahve cost me .50 extra...seriously. They can keep their .50 slice of tomato.
I'm surprised they didn't have a sign up saying the keptchup would be extra too.

ASI or Advanced Secure Issuance cards

If you haven't heard of this it's the new ID and Driver's licenses that msot states are going to be getting. My state started issuing the new ID's in febraury on this year and they will continue to. The change is suppossed to prevent ID theft and fraud.

The new ID's will have changes to them and all that have a little gold star in the upper right hand corner will be ASI cards. You have to show more paperwork here now to get your ID, like two papers to prove you are a resident, like utlility bills and credit cards statements.

When I took my daughter to get her ID she didn't automatically get it they way I used to. They mailed it to her and it took two weeks for her to get it.

Things are a changin...

To much electronics in cars?

After all the problems toyota has been having with their gas pedals sticking, accelerating when they don't want to and the fact that the accelerater petal is not electronic when most cars didn't used to be that way. Maybe they should go back to the way it used to be.

When we go out to buy a car now a days we can't just pick a car based on how good it looks from the outside, how the gas mileage is on it, what color we want. No, now we have to be concerned if the manufacturers have installed to many electronics, if the electronics are installed correctly, if the gas petal is suddenly going to stick, if OnStar is listening to us, if the police can call OnStar and stop our cars if they suspect us of doing something illegal and if we'll be able to find a reliable mechanic that has the knowledge to fix all the electronic problems that might arise in the future.

Maybe it would jsut be easier to find a reliable older car and spend the money to getting it running real well. Then we wouldn't have to worry about onStar, sticking gas petals, too many wires and the guys who have knowledge working on those older cars can be found all over the place.

Can't they sing?

I was listening to th radio today and it seems like all these new artists are singing into a weird type of mic that is messing with their voices. I found out that it's called autotune. It's suppossed to be a vocal enhancing technique used in songs. ect.

But these singers who are using it all sound the same and you can't tell if they can really sing or not. You can't tell if they have a good voice or not because they all sound like they are singing into a synthisizer or something. It sounds bad to me.

It seems like alot of the hip hop artists are choosing to use this technique. Don't they want to sound like themselves? or do they not have the voice to be able to pull it off without this device.

The Ads are gone...

I put the Adsense ads on my blog because someone told me that they make money from them every month. Well, I'd had them on my blog for over a year and I haven't made one penny from them...so as of today they are gone.

The way they work is when someone visits your site or blog and they click on one of the ads, you get a few cents or a dollar for each time someone clicks on them. But I've been to many websites where they ahve ads and not once have I ever clicked on one of the ads. So I guess many people are like me and don't. So they are gone.

My mom's new dog

Shih Tzu (pronounced Shit-zu) lol

Last month my mom's 17 year old Lhapso Apso died. She had him cremated and his ashed are in this really cute little wooden box. She was really really attached to that dog and when he died she felt alone.

she kept saying she wasn't going to get another dog but then today she decided to go down to the shelter that is right around the corner from her and just 'see' what they had and if she found a dog she really liked.

She said she spent almost 4 hours there looking at this dog and that dog, petting long haired dogs, even a sweet little pit bull, who layed her head in my mom's lap.

My mom is in a wheel chair most of the time but she can get up and walk for shrt amounts of time, so she needed a dog that wasn't afraid of the motorized wheelchair and some of them were.

Then the lady brought out what my mom thought was a little puppy. My mom said it looked like a small ball of fur. But she was actually a four year old full grown Shih Tzu, that is so small she weighs less than 4 lbs.

I asked her...4 lbs? Seriously? That's a lil dog. But the dog who's name is cup cake, was laying in my mom's lap, tring to crawl into her pockets, and she said when cup cake looked up at her with those little brown eyes she knew she found the dog she wanted.

So Cup Cake is being spayed tomorrow morning and microchipped and my mom can pick her up after 6pm. The shleter aso gave my my a carrier, blanket and a large bag of Science diet food and a coupon for one free well doggie check up for anytime in the next year for Cup Cake...all for free!

Do you have an obsession?

I think alot of us obsess about different things at different times. if I know I have an article half done I sit and think about it until I go and finish it. It just has to get done! I tried having three or four articles half done. doing research for them all at th same time and writing a little bit each day, but that didn't work out too well. I found myself obsessing about getting them done.

So now I wait until I have the time to do one whole article and finish the darn thing. Done...until the next one.

Then I start obsessing about what I should write the next article on. How many ways can you write about how to care for your hamster. Or, The best foods to feed your pet rat. Maybe I should branch out to other animals...lol

When I know something has to be done, I have this need to get it done...NOW!. it can't wait until tomorrow, it can't wait until dinner is cooked...No it needs to get done now.

If I have a doctor's appointment the next day I'll have a hard time sleeping because I know that I have to go do something the next day and I want to get it done and over with. But I'm the same way about doing the grocery shopping, getting the car gassed up, doing the laundry, filling out paperwork...ect. if it needs to be done...do it now.

yep, I'm a bit obsessed.

Would you sell your used panties for money?

I just happened to be bored and looking through Craigslist and came across an add for used panties every other week. He's willing to pay $20.00 for them each time. Now this isn't the first time I've seen or heard about this particular fetish, but it got me thinking. How many women would do this to make a few bucks?

Can't he get his girlfriend to wear a pair for him and pay her some money, or is he so weird that he doesn't want a girlfriend he just wants some strange woman's panties to sniff?

censoring one self

If you have been to a blog, youtube, Yahoo news and have read the comments section you may have seen comments like this one.
(totally made up BTW)

I don't see why you f*cking people think this is such a big d*mn deal? What the f*ck is the big G--- d*mn deal?*

or

I was at the store and some guy slapped my arse. Why the effing fawk is he thinking?

Seriously? Do people really think that throwing a hyphen, asterisk or spelling the word weird is actually better than swearing in the first place? Do they think they are better then other people?

The last time I was on Yahhoo news I said Damn...oh no. really?
Sue me.

Reading...

I was going through the Amazon.com book lists of books I want to get and I saw that I need to get the latest installment of Wolf Tales. I am also looking forward to Atlantis Redeemed. I have been reading alot of paranormal romance here recently. I like the fantasies that are played out in the Vampire, Werewolf, Ghosts and aliens type books. There's just so many things that can be done with that.

One of my favorite series right now is the Anita Blake series by Laurell K. Hamilton. She has done so much with this series. For some reason I can't explain, I have read other books where the M/M relations where they also have relations with a woman and I didn't like the way it was written so I stopped getting those Menage a trois type stories, that is until I read one of the books in the Anita Blake series.

Laurell has a way of getting the M/M as well as M/M/F and even more men in the bed than just two, for it to be really tender, emotional and easy to see how it can happen and work.

I didn't think I would like this type of arrangement but reading it the way she writes it, it's really entertaining. I don't think I would like it if it was all about two gay men or two bisexual men, but even that has it's place. But for these characters to bring the woman into their bed and have her be their focus while there, that makes it readable for me.

I think this has a lot to do with this being sort of a female fantasy thing. I mean what woman wouldna't want two men focused completely on her? None that I can think of.

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Bucket List

Do you have a Bucket List? Did you see the movie, Bucket List?
I did see the movie and I have to say, it was so darn funny. It made me start thinking, If I made a bucket list what would be on it?

And you know what? I've already done just about everything that came to mind.
I'm a mommy, a wife and a big sister. I've had days where I'm so happy I can't stop smiling as well as days that I know have made other people happy just be doing something simple for them.

The only thing I can think of that I would really like to do is visit a Scottish Castle, but since I will never get on another airplane again...I don't see that happening. Ah, but I can visit one in cyber space. lol