Tuesday, April 09, 2013

A To Z Blogging Challenge: H Is For help

At some point in our lives we all need to ask for or accept help from another person. Knowing when to accept help is another thing all together. I remember being a very stubborn 21 year old with a newborn baby and when my mom asked me if I wanted her to come and stay with us to help out...I said, "No, I'm fine, I got this."

I didn't have it, not at all. But was too stubborn to accept help from her. So when my own 21 year old daughter had a baby and I saw she was getting stressed out and had postpartum depression like I did, I offered to watch our grandson so they could go out and get away for a while, over night so they could get a full nights sleep or when ever they needed it just for a little time away.

Me with my grandson, Logan. 

Babies are great but they are also stressful, a lot of work and sometimes you need to be willing to accept help from those around you when they offer it. I learned that the hard way and wanted to make sure my daughter and her boyfriend knew they had help if they wanted or needed it. 

We've watched Logan over night so they could get some sleep and during the day so they could go see a movie and just get out for a little while. 

It's easy to help others so why is it so hard to accept help from someone? Pride? You want to prove you can do it yourself? You don't want to look weak? 

There are a lot of reasons but remember when the help is offered, take it. Most times the people offering are genuinely wanting to help out. 


  1. Yeah especially with a kid, I'd take help anytime.

  2. I really appreciated reading this entry - it was something good to hear/think about this morning. :)

    - Patricia at Bookish Geek

  3. Very sweet that you did this for your daughter. I have four grandchildren now and have gone for a month with each. Agree with you completely. Very nice photo, and the name Logan is a delight.


  4. Pat, that's exactly what I was thinking.

    Bookish Geek, thank you. I appreciate that.

    Cynthia, Congrats on having 4 grandchildren and thank you. :)

  5. The Beatles understood that "we get by with a little help from our friends."

    Great post, Mary!!

    One other thing; when our first grandson was born, the doctor observed that it takes three adults to look after one small baby.

    Blessings and Bear hugs!
    Bears Noting

  6. I don't really like getting help because I don't feel as if I deserve it and that since it's my own fault for getting into a mess, I should get out of it myself. I don't know.

  7. Nicely said. Helping and receiving help is also another way to grow closer.

    From A to Z, Kristen's blog: kristenhead.blogspot.com

  8. Rob, It takes a lot of people to look after a newborn. Waking up every two hours for a changing and feeding is rough. I forgot just how rough.

    Villyne, Everyone deserves help. Doesn't matter how they got in the situation they are in. I learned this through many years of not accepting help. But I'm older and wiser now. ;)

    Kristen, Thank you. it really is.

  9. I think we all suffer from false pride at times :)
    I love the photo of you and Logan


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