Tuesday, December 25, 2012

An Open Letter To My Stalker

Dear Sociopath,

I really never wanted this drama, not in a million years did I think it would come to this...but it has. About 6 months ago I stopped communicating with you. I cut you off completely.

I deleted you from my Twitter friends
I deleted you from my Face Book Friends
I deleted you from LinkedIn friends
I did not respond to emails from you
I did not respond to the threatening emails from your uncle
I even deleted anyone associating with you on FB from my friends list

As recent as last month you sent me yet another email that I did not respond to and so did your uncle. Then you added me to your circles on Google+ and I blocked you. Now you are leaving comments on my blog.

Be a man and stop lurking in shadows like some twisted jealous psycho. Only a Jealous, psychotic, malicious narcissist would behave this way.

I can't figure out why you don't get the hint and leave me and my family alone. Why are you bothering me? Are you so unhappy with your own life that you have to try and make everyone around you just as unhappy? Or are you just jealous that I have moved on with my life and you can't seem to do the same? What a sad, sad person you are.

You have been trying to get my attention by email and by spreading half truths to your family in an attempt to get them to send me nasty emails and your uncle has done this. I have not engaged in direct contact with you what so ever. I have not responded to emails and this passive aggressive comment and delete system you have of writing things is ridiculous. But ignoring you isn't working obviously, so let me make it crystal clear for you. Leave me and my family alone. Forget we ever met..I already have. It's been 6 months since I have acknowledged your existence and you are still trying to cause drama with me. It's getting pathological. You need help.

Let me make this very publicly clear to you, since I know you obsessively check my blog...

- do not contact me.
- do not respond to this post to try and defend yourself; no point.
- do not email me
- do not email my family
- do not follow me around and try to see what I am posting online

This blog is public, as is my twitter account… I can’t stop you from reading them. But, I challenge you to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, Why are you here reading this now?

 Cyber stalking is a crime. You might not consider your behavior as “stalking”, but I do. For your sake, I hope you get some professional help.


  1. Hi Mary,
    Are you sure there is no way to block the person from being able to follow you on twitter & your blog. There should be a way to at least be able to keep them from being able to comment and if you report them to twitter maybe they have a way to block the person completely.
    So sorry you are having problems :(

  2. I don't know of any way to block someone on blogger and the only way I can block them on Twitter is if they send me direct messages which he is not. I've blocked him everywhere else that I can, but obviously he isn't getting the message.

    I don't know of any way to block someone on Yahoo mail either, but I do have other email addresses I can use.

  3. Wow, CRAZINESS!
    I'm sure you already are (but if you're not) you should print off everything your stalker is sending you to give to the police if things escalate any further.
    Cyber-stalking ain't no joke.
    I hope everything works out for you and your family.

  4. I have copies of everything. I will get the police involved if he doesn't leave me alone.

  5. People like that always seem to have something mentally wrong with them and it sounds like he is one of those types and if his uncle a family member is also bothering you, sounds like there might be some kind of mental burp in his whole family. I'd be careful about people like that, you never know what they are likely to do. I'm sure no one thought that a guy would pick up a gun and kill a classroom full of kids, but people with mental problems will do bad things. You have to be aware of your surroundings and careful what these psychotic people do or are capable of doing. You just never know when one of them are going to pop a fart and go all psycho on you.

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  7. Thank you Ashlyn. I'm not messing around with this person any more. The person in question wrote a comment here but as you can see he deleted it and sent me an email instead. Hopefully that will be the end of it, but if not and I keep getting contacted I will get a protective order, I will post every single email he and his uncle sent to me over the past 7 months, I will post the public URL's to the news articles about this person who is facing felony charges, so everyone knows who he is. (Something I have not done up to this point). The BS is going to stop or I won't hold back any longer.

  8. You can block IP addresses, I believe, and I would encourage that. The next step would be to notify the authorities. What the stalker and family is doing is illegal.

  9. I haven't heard from this person again after this. Hopefully this is the end of the whole mess.

  10. I have had an ex-colleague stalking and harassing me for 6+ years.

    I never dated him, and I left our shared workplace because of his behaviour (he stalked and harassed me at work too, to the endless entertainment of our head of department).

    My stalker is a coward practising gaslighting as the below audio explains. He is hacking my mobile communication, my Internet connection, and our home's electricity supply. None of the following TPG (mobile service provider) Telstra (ISP) or ESV (the organisation responsible for installing smart meters in our homes) are willing to acknowledge any vulnerabilities, let alone investigate how my stalker can be stopped.


    In my experience there is nothing a victim of harassment can effectively do when stalking and harassment involves technology. Our laws in Australia have never progressed beyond the 1970s.

    BTW my stalker can access any woman's home address in Victoria, Australia. He forces himself on women to experience power being a broke, middle-aged highschool drop-out.

    I am sharing this to raise awareness.

    1. Sorry to hear you're having to deal with this.

  11. PS: my stalker's name is Alex Meehan. He works as an IT Helpdesk Administrator. Avoid him like the plague unless you want a psycho creep to control your life for as long as he pleases.

  12. hmm.. nice for making it alittle out to the space.

    so how do i get red of a female stalker..any idear...! anyone!

    1. I blocked him on all social media and stopped responding to anything he said. He did finally go away.

  13. Anonymous12:24 PM

    This is my life. I deal with this. Only my stalker will make account after account after account of Facebook to message me, my family and my bfs family. Its been going on over a year now and I'm so fed up with it. i love your open letter. i have created a Facebook page dedicated to my stalker. everything they , he or she sends me i share publicly. This is a coping strategy of mine that helps me not feel alone in this. This is real and its terrible for anyone to deal with. I am sorry you have to as well as anyone else in the world.

    Xmali Bellax {Malibu Beautiful}


    Please be kind, this is solely for support.

    1. I'm sorry you're having to go through that.

  14. Anonymous8:24 AM

    I am sorry anyone has to go through anything of the sort.

    1. I am too. You can always go to the police and get a restraining order and that will stop them from contacting you through the internet as well.

    2. Anonymous12:01 PM

      They make fake account after fake account and i do not know who is doing it.

    3. Oh, I see. Sorry that is happening.


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