Saturday, December 31, 2005

Optimistic VS Pessimistic

You ever wonder why some people are optomistic and others are pessimistic? I have. I myself am overly pessimistic...even negative. I'm the only one in my family to have this disease. I call it a disease because that's the way my family thinks of it, even my husband. I've endured years of therapy to try and 'fix me' I've recently come to the conclusion that there's nothing wrong with me. I stopped seeing the therapist and I'm not going hell with her and her you'll be 'normal' one day. Why is it that happy people don't think you are normal unless you are happy right along with them? I have lived with this negative, pessimistic outlook all of my life and frankly I am comfortable being me. I am not going to change who I am just cause the people around me want me to. I don't want to.

By now, you are probably wondering why I have such a negative outlook on life. The reason why I have this negative outlook on life is actually rather simple: because life and humans in general do indeed suck. People die, cheat, steal, lie and kill. I realize this is a rather recursive argument, but I don't care. Why do I believe that life sucks? Because, everything I have experienced in my 35 years of life has proved to me that this is so. Sure, there is the occasional bright spot every now and then, but life on the whole still remains as horrid as ever.

Some people grow up with everything handed to them, money, love, things, all the luxuries of life and still they are not happy. That should tell you something. Life can suck even if you have everything. To me I think it is an individual thing. Why do therapists think they have to 'fix' you if you are a negative person? Maybe some people are just suppossed to be negative, like some people are born to be happy and positive. Some people are tall and some are short some are happy and some are not. That's what makes us different. We don';t live in a utopia and we never will. To me that old saying is true....Life sucks...then you die.


  1. I've been saying life sucks for so long, I don't even remember when I started. Its been lots of years though, that much i know. I've been happy more the last couple months thanks to a friend, but for the most part i'm still generally not happy guy. I've been asked a few times how I can be so mean sometimes and so nice the next. It depends on the person, I guess. I know some that I couldn't be mean too if I tried, but others............most people just bug me. I don't know why, but its true.

  2. I can understand that. People bug me too.

  3. I used to be one of 'those' happy guys, always looking at the bright side of things, Kay Sera Sera etc.
    I haven't been that way in years. I hit middle age and suddenly got angry. Been that way ever since. Like you mentioned, there are the occasional bright spot but for the most part, life in general is one large day to day struggle to stay on top of things.
    Life has gotten to be over complicatd and it's not going to get any better anytime soon.
    I come to feel that if you expect the worst then it happens you are prepared and if something good happens, then it's a pleasant surprise. That saves on getting short sheeted.
    It has to come to this due to the fact that the good stuff happens very little anymore, if it did I would still be the optomistic type. I've turned into a pessimist out of self preservation.
    I'm not mean nor do I go looking for trouble, but Mary insisted I set myself up too often.
    Well, nice guys do indeed finish last, most often. It's usually the ones that elbow and ouch that get the free stuff, not the polite ones.
    And that sucks.

  4. I can't say I've ever been one of those happy people, but I sure do understand about being pessimistic. I tried telling my husband exactly what you said some time ago, I expect the worst to happpen, I go through all the things that can happen in my head so i am prepared for them just in case, if it doesn't happn and something good happens that's nice but if it does then I'm prepared.


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