I've been thinking of writing an autobiography or memoir, but it just never comes together for me, but I figured if I write one story at a time and post it on my blog maybe once a month, I can do that. Maybe one day I'll pull all the stories together and put them in a book but for now I'll just share some stories with you about my childhood and into adulthood. Some of the stories will be happy, some sad and some horrific because that was my childhood. But they will all be real, things that actually happened. If it seems like something that people enjoy reading maybe, I'll keep it going. These stories will not be in any kind of order; I'll just write them as they come to me.
Dealing With A Bully
For my first two years of high school I lived in Hawthorne, California. The High School I went to was Leuzinger High School in Lawndale, California.
Freshman year things were mostly fine and I got good grades and had no problems with anyone. Near the middle of the school year one girl had a problem with me for talking to her boyfriend. But I had my own boyfriend and wasn't interested in hers. She kept picking on me, pushed me into the lockers in the locker room of P.E, Class, tried tripping me on the way to class. Called me names ect. I got really sick of it, so I took another class the second semester of the year that we could take instead of P.E. so I wouldn't have to be in the locker room with her. I ended up taking ROTC. Ohh that was a lot harder than I thought it would be, we ran the mile 3 times a week.
The next year, Sophomore year of high school she kept picking on me. So I took girls wrestling instead of P.E. that first semester and got really good at it. The second semester I took weight lifting. By this time I was still running a lot after school, and I was in good shape. The weight lifting made me stronger after a few weeks of doing it and when she came at me during lunch one day, I just had enough of her.
She pushed me and I punched her in the face. She grabbed my head and punched me, then she grabbed a hold of the second piercing in each of my ears and pulled. She ripped the earrings right out of my ears and I saw red. I punched her a few times in the face and I ended up breaking her nose.
Campus security got to us, stopped the fight and took us both to the office. We both got suspended for 2 weeks and we both went to the ER. I had to have both of my ears sewn back together, you can still see the scars on my ears from that fight.
When we were allowed back to school, she never bothered me again. No one bothered me. I only spent a little of the next year at that school because I got put in foster care for a few months when my mom went to prison for 6 months for drugs and then changed schools when I lived with my dad later.
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Well each of you got stuck into each other, I bet that hurt having the earrings pulled out, it would be double ouch! for sure. I never was bullied so I don't know what it would be like, but I image it would make your life miserable.
ReplyDeleteIt hurt but at the time I was too mad to really care...until later when I had to get them stitched up.
DeleteKinda brilliant of you to take wrestling and weight lifting. She didn't realize she'd get as good as she gave if she fought you. Some girls just suck.
ReplyDeleteI just didn't want to do regular PE and had no idea that these other classes would be more exercise than just doing regular PE would be. lol But it turned out well for me.
DeleteWow, ripping earrings is seriously vicious. You were obviously just defending yourself, but the adults who run schools never care about things like that. Way to show kids that they don't really mean it when they talk about being fair.
ReplyDeleteThe no fighting tolerance policy was just crazy. But the school officials didn't listen.
DeleteIt is so amazing how mean children can be. And I call them children because until you are about 18 years old you're really not grown up. You certainly did your best to avoid the bully and at the same time get yourself in good shape. I remember being bullied in school also but I have to say it didn't really come to anything like this did.
ReplyDeleteI sometimes wonder what she's like now.
DeleteBullies are just bad news. So you talked to her boyfriend...probably now she's just roll her eyes and say take him if you want. Sorry you had to deal with that.
ReplyDeleteSome girls are just so jealous and insecure.
DeleteI'm sorry you had to deal with so much disruption and upset in your life. It's so unfair.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteThat girl was some bully 😱 - not to mention, she kept at it for two years! It's disheartening that you were left to fend for yourself.
ReplyDeleteShe was crazy. But at least I didn't get bullied anymore after that.
DeleteI went through a short patch of bullying in junior high school, but nothing like what you went through!
ReplyDeleteBullying is just wrong. Schools need to do more about it.
DeleteOh how I loathe bullies! I remember them all from my childhood and teenage years.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what these kinds of people are like now.
DeleteOuch! You gave her as much rope as your could.
ReplyDeleteI did.
DeleteDeus caritas est!
ReplyDeleteThanks.
DeleteHorrible that they punish both the same when one was clearly the instigator 🙁
ReplyDeleteThey had a zero tolerance policy on fighting. Didn't matter that I was just defending myself.
DeleteHigh school is the absolute worst.
ReplyDeleteIt sure can be.
DeleteJealous teen girls are the worst. What a crappy ordeal you had to go through, but glad you had yourself prepared to defend yourself.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you have to fight back.
DeleteIt's a shame you got suspended when she ripped your piercing out. I remember being bullied in the 9th grade and I stabbed the guy in the hand with a compass (I'd taken the pencil out for the purpose of it). He never bothered me again.
ReplyDeleteGood for you. Sometimes you have to get angry and fight back.
DeleteDang! I guess it all could have been a lot worse!
ReplyDeleteIt could have been.
DeleteI did literally the same LOL Also had a nasty little bully but always deemed it below me to respond to the sad moron, but then once he pushed me too far like yours you and I punched him in the face real hard in front of the whole class which erupted in cheers and started clapping me on my back, I think their approval hurt him more than my punch LOL
ReplyDeletelol Good for you. I'm sure him getting laughed at was bad for his ego.
DeleteThat's insane that you got suspended too when she's the one who was bullying you all along! What an awful person! Hope she's living the life she deserves! Glad you were able to defend yourself. Sorry that you ended up injured and then in foster care! What a story, Mary!
ReplyDeleteThey had a zero tolerance policy so it didn't matter if you were just defending yourself or not. Thank you.
DeleteI hate bullies. I'm glad you broke her nose. I once had a bully take a swing at me when we were outside on the sidewalk in front of the school in winter. It made her slip on ice and she fell backwards and smacked her head on the concrete. She got up and looked at me and screamed f**k you, like I did something. Ha ha. Everyone was laughing at her. 😅
ReplyDeleteI hate bullies too. Dang. lol
DeleteOmg omg
ReplyDeleteYep. Ouch.
DeleteAt least she quit bothering you, but man, that sounds awful.
ReplyDeleteIt was.
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